If you are good at something flaunt it so that others know it. If you feel that your intelligence is the height of your personality, then make sure that you show it off. If you think you have the ability to make someone laugh, there is nothing wrong with sharing a laugh that creates a smile on someone’s face. If you excel in sports, then show that off as well. Others like to see the good things in you and you should want to put those things up front and in the best possible light. These are just some of the things that attract others to us…our great qualities and abilities!
Allow others to see how different and special you are. If you feel that the people around you are not attracted to you, then think again and look in another direction; broaden your horizons. If you like sports then find others with similar interests and hang out with them. Having things in common makes for easier conversation so look for someone with whom you would find it easy to talk. If you cannot communicate well with others, especially in a relationship, you may lose the relationship before it ever begins. A successful relationship begins with great communication.
The first thing that you should learn to do if you have not already is to communicate effectively with your partner. In other words, there should be an even exchange on listening and talking on both parts initially. The simplest way to develop this is for you to become friends before lovers. Identify things the two of you have in common and be willing to talk and explore the worldviews of the other person. Take your time with this person and build a strong foundation. You will not regret doing this, it will build great structure for your relationship.
When you decide to hang out with your new friend, don’t bring along a third person to accompany you. This can impede on the quality time you are trying to spend with each other. This is a time to relax, have fun, and enjoy yourself. Another note to yourself, don’t be dishonest and attempt to show this person someone that you are not, be yourself and express your feelings directly. Be careful not to lie while forming relationships as this may be disastrous and will come back to haunt you. Stay true to yourself and who you are because, if those lies catch up to you, you would be heartbroken and only to find yourself alone as a result.
Remember to convey your feelings to this special person. But before sharing feelings and emotions be sure that the feelings are mutual, sometimes you can do this by allowing yourself to flirt a little. This will allow you to find out if you are getting the right vibe. Flirting is a healthy social and playful activity but sometimes the other person does not feel the same way but if you do get the reciprocation of emotion then it may help you to build a successful relationship. Emotional bonds with the right person will assist in creating a successful connection with that person. Try not to feel down if things are not reciprocated, remember you must be patient and your time will come.
Take it slow and don’t be desperate, because believe me it will show if it is present within you. When you relax and take things easy you will open yourself for lots of surprises to come your way. You may be surprised to find that a special person may have noticed you from afar and asks you out for a date, when you least expect it!
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