The compatibility factor is usually something that is taken for granted for too long. You have perhaps also overlooked its foreseeable powers and always forgot to read the signs on the road. That road you were planning to travel along with your partner has now become foggy and doesn’t show any sign of clearance. And everything you have experienced so far is difficult and confusing.
It is human nature to forget emotional beatings from past relationships, put aside the anxieties you have been through and erase the feelings of dysfunction and inadequacy as you move from one relationship to the other wishing for a better result and more stability. It’s understandable you want to start fresh from ground zero. But are you the turtle that crosses the busy freeway thinking it can escape from it unharmed? You must be crazy to think that way!
Learn from your past and take the necessary precautions before taking the first step. Nobody enters or exits a relationship without experiencing ups and downs. Although you have experienced it before, every time you look for a partner you put down your guards and land up in the same place. It is time to stop allowing your past to shape your future. Haven’t you had your share of drama queens? Uncaring people using you like a Kleenex? Codependent people who are unable to sustain themselves and then they drag you down along with them?
How about connecting with someone who really cares about you? Can you visualize spending time with someone who respects you and takes part in your daily activities? Wouldn’t you love to be with someone who blindly believes in your vision of the future?
The bad news is that this takes time; the good news is that it will eventually happen for you. No one can give you a 100% guarantee that you will find someone with 100% compatibility. You must first understand that none of us will reach that level of perfection ourselves therefore we cannot sit and expect someone else to be that perfect. Can I tell you a secret? The perfect soul mate doesn’t come in a Cracker Jack box. If he did we would all have one!
Compatibility issues are common in a lot of relationships. One of the main reasons we are not finding out about our compatibility issues sooner is due to the lack of communication in the foundation building stage of our relationships. And believe it or not compatibility issues often deal with arguments about the simplest things. These arguments boil over into attitude problems and negative emotions that form an impenetrable wall of silence between couples. This drives that wedge of separation deeper and deeper into your relationship. Understand that most issues of compatibility can be resolved if there is an invested commitment to communicate with each other and collectively remain patient to make it work. .
Your desire to stay together is the most important factor of compatibility and hopefully you can agree on that
